STRESS MANAGEMENT

A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on”stress management". He raised a
glass of water and asked the audience, "How heavy do you think this glass of water
is?"
The students' answers ranged from 20g to 500gm.
It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it.
If I hold it for a minute, it is OK.
If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance.
It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
"If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on,
the burden becoming increasingly heavier."
"What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up
again."
We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able
to carry on.
So before you return home from work tonight, put down the burden of work.
Don't carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you are
having now on your shoulders, let it down for a moment if you can.
Pick it up again later when you have rested... Rest and relax.
Life is short, enjoy it!!

IMPORTANCE OF SOUL

Once upon a time...
There was a rich King who had 4 wives.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the
finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring
kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.
He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidante and was always kind, considerate
and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her to
help him get through the difficult times.
The King's 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in
maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife and
although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.
One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious
life and pondered, "I now have 4 wives with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest
clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me
and keep me company?"
"No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.
Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm
dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!" His
heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always
been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can
only send you to your grave."
Her answer came like a bolt of thunder and the King was devastated.

Then a voice called out:
"I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go." The King looked up and
there was his first wife. She was so skinny, she suffered from malnutrition.
Greatly grieved, the King said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I
had the chance!"

In Truth, we all have 4 wives in our lives...

Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it
look good, it'll leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others.

Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for
us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures
of the ego.

However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go.

So cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now! It is your greatest gift to offer the world.
Let it Shine!

THINK BEFORE YOUR LEAP

One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along
the route. No problems for the first few stops-a few People got on, a few got off, and
things went generally well. At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a guy got on. Six
feet eight, Built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the
Driver and said, "Big John doesn't pay!" and sat down at the back.
Did I mention that the driver was five feet three, thin, and basically meek? Well, he
was. Naturally, he didn't argue with Big John, but he wasn't happy about it.
The next day the same thing happened-Big John got on again, made a show of refusing
to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the one after that, and so forth. This
grated on the bus driver, who started losing sleep over the way Big John was taking
advantage of him.

Finally he could stand it no longer. He signed up for body building courses, karate,
judo, and all that good stuff. By the end of the summer, he had become quite strong;
what's more, he felt really good about himself.
So on the next Monday, when Big John once again got on the bus and said, "Big John
doesn't pay!" the driver stood up, glared back at the passenger, and screamed, "And
why not?"
With a surprised look on his face, Big John replied, "Big John has a Bus pass."
Moral of the story: "Be sure there is a problem in the first place before working hard to
solve one."

BATTLE OUT THE UNFAIR & EMERGE OUT VICTORIOUS..!

Around two weeks ago I was called to judge a talent contest at one of the city colleges.
I noticed all the participants were given slips of paper with a topic written on it and
told to come up and speak for three minutes. Lots were drawn as to who would be the
first speaker and the next and the next. The first contestant I noticed looked a little
disgruntled as he got onto the podium to address the others.
"My fellow students and respected judges," he said loudly, "this is an unfair contest!"
I, along with my fellow judges looked up surprised. "I have been given this
paper," he continued, "to speak on a subject with just a few minutes preparation
whereas those after me have more time to work on their speech.


This is unfair!" He then proceeded to leave the stage and stormed out of the
hall. Nobody missed him and the contest went on smoothly.
I met him on the landing as I was being escorted out later.
"Who said life is fair?" I asked him with a smile. He looked at me startled
and I asked him to walk with me to my car. "Life," I told him, "is fighting
the unfair and still winning! Do you read automobile magazines?"
"Yes," he said eagerly, "I do."
"Have you seen statistics shown when a new car is being introduced into the
market? They talk about speed and torque and transmission and horse power."
"Yes," he nodded.
"But there is a line they put after all these figures. They say all this data is when there
are ideal road conditions!"
"Yes," he said again.
"Show me ideal road conditions?" I asked him and he smiled. "The car that
sells well," I continued is the car that will deliver power and speed and
durability in the worst of roads, in potholes and mud and slush. That car is
a winner!"


We had reached my car and he stood by my side as I heaved myself in. "Don't
look for ideal playing conditions," I said. "Fight the unfair and come out a winner!" I
looked back in my rear view mirror as I drove away and saw him
smile and wave and knew he would fight the unfair from now on.


The fight never stops. Ask all the successful people in our own country. They fight
regardless whether the battle is fair or unfair. Stop telling the world about the unfair
deal you've got out of life; start battling the unfair, come out victorious..!

CHANGE YOUR STRATEGY

One day, there was a blind man sitting on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet
and a sign that read "I am blind, please help".
A creative publicist was walking by him and stopped to observe he only had a few
coins in his hat, he dropped a few more coins in his hat and without asking for his
permission took the sign, turned it around, and wrote another announcement.

He placed the sign by his feet and left. That afternoon the creative publicist returned by
the blind man and noticed that his hat was full of bills and coins. The blind man
recognized his footsteps and asked if it was him who had re-written his sign and he
wanted to know what did he write on it?
The publicist responded "Nothing that was not true, I just rewrote your sign
differently". He smiled and went on his way.
The blind man never knew but his new sign read “TODAY IS SPRING AND I CANNOT
SEE IT".
Change your strategy when something does not go your way and you'll see it will
probably be for the best. Have faith that every change is best for our lives.

See this video to see our Constraints, find it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWh0cSsNmGY&feature=youtube_gdata_player

NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE - Read to the Last...

This is a real story that happened between the customer of General Motors and its
Customer-Care Executive.
A complaint was received by the Pontiac Division of General Motors "This is the second
time I have written to you, and I don't blame you for not answering me,
because I sounded crazy, but it is a fact that we have a tradition in our family of Ice-
Cream for dessert after dinner each night.
But the kind of ice cream varies so, every night, after we’ve eaten the whole family
votes on which kind of ice cream we should have and I drive down to the store to get it.
It's also a fact that I recently purchased a new Pontiac and since then my trips to the
store have created a problem.
You see, every time I buy a vanilla ice-cream, when I start back from the store my car
won't start. If I get any other kind of ice cream, the car starts just fine. I want you to
know I'm serious about this! ; question, no matter how silly it sounds "What is there
about a Pontiac that makes it not start when I get vanilla ice cream, and easy to start
whenever I get any other kind?"

The Pontiac President was understandably skeptical about the letter, but sent an
Engineer to check it out anyway. The latter was surprised to be greeted by a
successful, obviously well educated man in a fine neighborhood. He had arranged to
meet the man just after dinner time, so the two hopped into the car and drove to the ice
cream store. It was vanilla ice cream that night and, sure enough, after they came
back to the car, it wouldn't start.

The Engineer returned for three more nights. The first night, they got chocolate. The
car started. The second night, he got strawberry. The car started. The third night he
ordered vanilla. The car failed to start.

Now the Engineer, being a logical man, refused to believe that this man's car was
allergic to vanilla ice cream. He arranged, therefore, to continue his visits for as long
as it took to solve the problem.

And toward this end he began to take notes he jotted down all sorts of data time of day,
type of gas uses, time to drive back and forth etc. In a short time, he had a clue the man
took less time to buy vanilla than any other flavor. Why? The answer was in the layout
of the store. Vanilla, being the most popular flavor, was in a separate case at the front
of the store for quick pickup.

All the other flavors were kept in the back of the store at a different counter where it
took considerably longer to check out the flavor. Now, the question for the Engineer
was why the car wouldn't start when it took less time. Once time became problem -
not the vanilla ice cream Eureka!!!!

The engineer quickly came up with the answer”vapour lock". It was happening every
night; but the extra time taken to get the other flavors allowed the engine to cool down
sufficiently to start. When the man got vanilla, the engine was still too hot for
the vapour lock to dissipate.

Remember, Even crazy looking problems are sometimes real and all problems seem to
be simple only when we find the solution with a cool thinking.
Don't just say its "IMPOSSIBLE" without putting a sincere effort...
Observe the word "IMPOSSIBLE" carefully... Looking closer you will see, "I'M
POSSIBLE"... What really matters is your attitude and your perception.

The 90/10 Principle...

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to
situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We
cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this
10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.]
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What
happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her
for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You
storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has
been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive
40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60
traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without
saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and
worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small
wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have
happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,
"its ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you
rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down
in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns
and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was
determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction
could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use
your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your
frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your
time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10
principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you
try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and
heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life***!!!!!!

Living the 7 Entrepreneurial Virtues

We all strive to be our best. Here are seven traits to make your entrepreneurial journey heavenly.

1. Purity

Temptation is abundant in the entrepreneurial world. Most people are looking for shortcuts: a faster, easier way to take the market, get funding, lock down a client. Most shortcuts, if even effective for the long run, can come with a price. The best businesses are built on a solid foundation of integrity. Their business models are backed by research and tested to prove viability. Above all, the ethical choices you make will impact the respect and trust you retain in business for decades to come. Those who misrepresent to gain fast traction are doomed to follow in the footsteps of Enron. Better to be a Jeff Bezos of Amazon than a Kenneth Lay of Enron.

2. Temperance

Exuberance is a trait of many entrepreneurs and CEOs. They love to get excited and get people around them excited as well. But the leader who gets excited all the time about every little thing creates excitement fatigue. Followers begin to lose interest because they can't distinguish between actual major milestones and missteps.  A leader who shows self-restraint can pick the moments to generate enthusiasm. Moderation will help sustain energy that builds over time.

3. Charity

One doesn't have to give away their fortune to be charitable. Charity can come in other forms than money. The best and most respected leaders give their time, their energy, their thoughts, and their life lessons. But they do it now, they do it often and they do it with intent. They make a concerted effort to engage with those who have not yet achieved, and they do it selflessly.

4. Diligence

As one of my personal core values, the idea of diligence has helped me benefit from wonderful opportunities as it has protected me from bad ones. Entrepreneurial people are ready to jump at a moment's notice, but those who can comfortably step back, do their homework, and deliver with consistency will grow bigger and better every time.

5. Patience

Patience may be the hardest virtue for entrepreneurial types to master. Once a vision is finished in your head, you want it to exist tomorrow (or at least by next week.) But the best success is built over time. A business or process cultivated carefully over time will grow bigger, be more competitive, and last longer. Plant your seeds today and enjoy helping them grow. And if you feel anxious along the way, at least learn to manage your impatience productively.

6. Kindness

I have said many times that nice people will sabotage you in business. But as a New Yorker, I appreciate that you can be brutally honest and direct while still being kind. In fact, the kindest move you can often make is to save people from wasting their time and energy on a dead end campaign. Beyond that, a smile and a little tasteful humorat no one's expense will go along way to endear you to others.

7. Humility

Entrepreneurial people, born or made, are gifted leaders. It takes strength, power and a healthy ego to lead people into the unknown. But the act of being humble, best demonstrated though self-awareness and acknowledgement of others, is sure to have people following you to great heights for all the right reasons.